You can rise up from failures, screw-ups, and falls.
But you can never go back.
You may not have signed up for a hero’s journey.
But hurt happens.
It happens to all of us.
The second you fell down, get your butt kicked, suffered a disappointment, screwed up, or felt your heart-break. It started.
The only decision you get to make is what role you’ll play.
Do you want to write the story or do you want to hand that power to someone else?
And if you decide to take control of your story, you need to reliably:
- To own the sadness, the hurt and the fears, embarrassments, and anger about how you have had to live your life
- To be specific about all the ways you fought for emotional survivorship. How you attempted to compensate for powerlessness, and how you tried to gain control.
- Find ways to express your anger without hurting yourself. And develop new beliefs and behaviors that support you in the way you deserve to be supported.
- Show your feelings. Feelings don’t go away. Repressed feelings only serve to distract you from your real self.
- Live a life where there is no more need to make a superhuman effort to stay in control so you can keep up appearances. Live a life with no more need to protect your vulnerability and hide your true self from others. Live a life with no more need to put up barriers that keep people at a distance.
Whatever brings you to this new beginning.
You will need to attend to some core issues from your past so that they no longer dictate how you live your life today.
It doesn’t mean you will, or should, forget your suffering.
That would be another kind of denial.
It means being willing to own the sadness, the hurt and the fears, embarrassments, and anger about how you have had to live your life.
It means being willing to be specific about all the ways you fought for emotional survivorship.
How you attempted to compensate for powerlessness, and how you tried to gain.
Exploring alone is terrific and all but do you have too?