Trauma involves surviving an experience that is often filled with shame, humiliation, and fear.

Which in turn leads to constant uncertainty between sharing the pain or hiding it or even hiding from it.

Yes, we live in a society that has difficulty tolerating other people’s discomfort and actually promotes secrecy, thus reinforcing the idea that you should not talk about what you’ve experienced and perpetuate a society of avoidance.

And yes, you can use avoidance with some success in the short run.

But does it work for the long haul, particularly when it’s the only or the main tool you use?

Don’t you want to look inside yourself to see what is going on and claim the power to do something different?

I do.