I was a career-driven 23 years-old in 2011. My job as a television reporter was taking off. I was a news break anchor and had a show about investigative crime stories. Therefore, dating was not part of my priorities. Until one coverage changed it all, I was assigned to do a story on a local political rivalry outside the metro. Consequently, I captured the attention of a young city councilman on the process. He started texting me, asking me on a date, but I kept declining.
As you walk through the triumphs and tragedies of life. To continually compare, distort, and obsess about your imperfection. Does it help? To accept yourself and your life as exactly as it is, in all, its glory and ignominy. Does your life need to be perfect? Don’t you want to become aware of the present […]
You’re a human being with both positive and negative traits. Imperfect with flaws and weakness. But is it not wonderful that you’re a good father, a hard worker, a faithful friend? Aren’t your traits of honesty, patience, diligence, creativity, sensuality, spirituality, and empathy something to be celebrated? Rather than wanting your storyline to be about […]
Stretch your outlook. Negative emotions. Narrow your worldview. To the point, you can’t see other possibilities right under your nose. It narrows in on what’s wrong with yourself and your life. It only sees your blemish and imperfection. It takes for granted the beauty and wonder of life. Yes, you don’t have to pretend that […]
Negative self-judgment. When you feel you aren’t good enough in some way. To be incredibly hard on your flaws and imperfections, to shut out the pain, to slam the door of your heart right in your own face. Does it help? Don’t you want to hold your unpleasant and negative experiences with caring concern? Are […]
Meet your own emotional needs. Is it not true for acceptance to truly penetrate our hearts, it has to come from within? When you confront the limitations of living a human life. Can you always rely on your partner to make you feel good about yourself? Don’t you want an emotional resource? Needed to act […]
Maybe you do tend to overreact, to be irresponsible, and to be controlling. And yes, you’re an imperfect human being. To be consumed with feelings of shame and inadequacy because of what you’ve done. Does it help? Don’t you want to focus your attention and concern where it’s most needed—on the person you’ve hurt? Are […]
To Prosper. You need to face up to ways you might be harming yourself and figure out how to make things better. To pit yourself against other people in an endless comparison game. To flog yourself into the relentless pursuit of high self-esteem. The elusive holy grail. Trying to find a permanent box. Labeled good […]