You’ve to overcome the natural tendency.
To avoid connecting with painful feelings.
Yes, this will need you to look honestly at these feelings.
And yes, the thought may come, “why bother? why open up if there’s even a vague possibility that I might get hurt?
But the opportunity to heal.
Hinges on your ability to stay with these painful emotions.
To not feel these disturbing feelings, to cut them off as they come up, or to stop paying attention to these zones of emotional turmoil.
Does it help?
Are you not tired of feeling unlovable, excluded, and afraid?