Maybe you do tend to overreact, to be irresponsible, and to be controlling.
And yes, you’re an imperfect human being.
To be consumed with feelings of shame and inadequacy because of what you’ve done.
Does it help?
Don’t you want to focus your attention and concern where it’s most needed—on the person you’ve hurt?
Are you not tired of being self-absorbed?
By failing to recognize how you have harmed others to heal the wounds you have caused?