Being traumatized means continuing to organize your life as if the traumatic experiences were still going on.

Unchanged and immutable as every new encounter or event is contaminated by the past.

To heal is when you realize and remember “that was then and this is now,” rather than reliving the experience over and over.

The Problem with Traumatic Experiences

People who have gone through the unspeakable fail to convey the essence of their traumatic experience, because the experience of trauma itself gets in the way of being able to do that.

It is so much easier for them to talk about what has been done to them—to tell a story of victimization.

They continue to be “there” and do not know how to be “here”—fully alive in the present.